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20 TIPS ON HOW TO GET A RAISE

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Make more money

Increase your earning potential by daily implementing the following suggested tips on how to get a raise.

Employers look for outstanding qualities in their staff and are more prone to rewarding model employees with salary increases, bonuses and/or other perks in order to keep them happy and on board.  By becoming a valuable asset to your employer, you greatly increase your chances for earning more money, and to that end I offer you…

20 Tips on How to Get a Raise

  1.  Get a good night’s sleep to keep you from nodding off at your desk during work hours.  Staying alert minimizes the possibility of errors.
  2.  Start each new day with a smile on your face.  Smiles are ‘catchy’ and create a pleasant atmosphere.
  3.  Arrive for work a little earlier to give yourself time to wind down, have a snack or something to drink  so that you can start your work day on time.
  4.  Personal hygiene and good grooming are of paramount importance…do your best not to leave home without them.
  5.  Use perfume, colognes or body sprays sparingly because some folks experience negative reactions to certain strong fragrances in enclosed spaces.
  6. Filing may seem like a chore if left to become a mound on your desk, but it need not be if you get into the habit of immediately filing all letters, reports, etc. as soon as you’re done with them.
  7.  Employers develop a new awareness and heightened respect for employees who devise cost-cutting and time-saving methods of getting the job done more efficiently.  Your employers will surely want to show their appreciation for your valuable input.
  8.  Dress appropriately for your place of business.  A professional appearance speaks volumes about you and reflects on the company you work for.
  9.  Do not allow phones to ring incessantly.  Answer incoming calls as soon as you can and speak clearly with a cheerful tone.
  10. When you’re given specific instructions by a superior, listen intently, take notes, then repeat the instructions as you understand them to ascertain accuracy as to what you’re being asked to do.
  11. On occasion, several projects may be assigned to you in one sitting at which time you might want to clarify with your superior as to the order of importance of each individual project and the required timeline for the completion of each one so that you’ll know what to concentrate on first.
  12. Efficiency makes the work day run more smoothly.  Learn to anticipate your boss’s needs.  Have files, reports and all other pertinent information on hand for quick access.
  13. When your workload is completed, find ways to keep busy.  Update your files, offer to help your co-workers, water the plants, or wash the soiled dishes in the staff lunchroom.
  14. Don’t look to others to perform mundane tasks that you can easily do yourself such as refilling the photocopy machine with toner and additional copy paper when needed.
  15. Never, ever, say “it’s not my job”.  These jarring words will make you seem uncaring and unwilling to be a team player and could negatively affect someone’s opinion of you.
  16. Have refreshments on hand for clients and guests.  Spot check washrooms and work areas for cleanliness and tidy up, if necessary.
  17. Check your work more than once before going on to the next project, because errors can sometimes be costly, time-consuming and/or frustrating to correct.  It’s always better to get things done right the first time around.
  18. Always be at your best by doing your best.  Your efforts, enthusiasm and pride with which you work will not go unnoticed by your superiors.
  19. Refrain from bombarding your superiors with complaints and mundane issues about your co-workers.  Employers have more pressing and important matters to attend to.
  20. Lastly, and most importantly, BE LOYAL TO YOUR EMPLOYERS.  Never, ever, side with a disgruntled employee against a superior because when  (NOT ‘IF’) he/she gets wind of it, his/her opinion of you will spiral downwards and will never be restored to its original state.

LIFE LESSON

AS AN EMPLOYEE WITH OUTSTANDING ATTRIBUTES THAT EMPLOYERS WANT AND NEED, YOU RAISE THE BAR FOR REAPING THE REWARDS OF APPRECIATION THAT YOU DESERVE.

LOVE AND MARRIAGE

CONNECT WITH YOUR MATE

The man you love..

Married couple in love cartoon
       Interests may differ

Because the man you love belongs to the male species, his interests lie in current events, sports and related trivia, car talk, and outdoor leisure activities like his golf game and fishing adventures.  In order for you to have lively and intelligent conversations with him, you need to be up to speed on topics of interest to him.

Save ‘girl talk’ for your girlfriends!

Don’t try to engage your man in idle chatter or ‘girl talk’ because he will quickly turn a deaf ear and retreat to the TV room first chance he gets.  When you need to ‘bend an ear’, call a girlfriend instead.

Do you want to be more interesting?

If you want to become a savvy, more interesting conversationalist, you need to watch the daily news, read newspapers, books and magazines that feature topics of interest to you so that you can share your new-found knowledge with the man you love.

LIFE LESSON:  A WHOLE NEW WORLD OF EXCITING DISCOVERIES
AWAITS YOU IN YOUR QUEST FOR KNOWLEDGE…SO DON’T DELAY!
START TODAY!

KEEP LOVE ALIVE IN MARRIAGE

MAKING YOUR MARRIAGE WORK!

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  Love and Marriage

Making your marriage work is a life-long process because various challenges present themselves throughout the years requiring you to adapt to new situations and alternate ways of thinking.

Your wedding day is but a distant memory and the honeymoon stage is somewhat waning.  What you’re left with now is simply ‘love and marriage’!

Here are some ideas on how to endear yourself to the one you love to help make your marriage work:

10  ways to help keep love alive in marriage!

  1. Be playful and flirtatious with your mate to let him know that you still find him attractive, sexy and desirable.
  2. Every so often on his day off, pamper him with a soothing massage, then hand him the remote to watch TV undisturbed for the rest of the day.
  3. Set aside some time for both of you to do something together that you know he’ll love (book a fishing or golf weekend, etc.).
  4. At the dinner table, ask him about his day, then discuss topics that are of interest to him.
  5. Be generous with your praise.  Let him know that you admire all that he is and how much you appreciate all that he does for you.
  6. When you’re out shopping, buy him a little something to show that you’re thinking of him even if it’s only a magazine, or his favorite nut-filled chocolate bar.
  7. Thank him each time he does something thoughtful for you, then smile and say ‘I love you too’!
  8. Cater to his palette.  Ask him what he feels like eating, then prepare it, or hand him your cookbook that features his favorite types of food and have him choose a new recipe for you to try.
  9. At home, keep your fridge and pantry stocked with goodies and ready-to-eat snacks and drinks for those evenings in front of the TV.
  10. Surprise him occasionally by doing something he would ordinarily do himself.  He’ll appreciate having one less thing to think about.

Learn to look ‘the other way’!

For peace and harmony in marriage, refrain from over-reacting to trivial matters.  Learn to look ‘the other way’ when things are not important.  Remember, too, that no matter what twists and turns life dishes out, you’ll get through them one day at a time, just as you’ve done many, many times before!

LIFE LESSON: LOVE, IMAGINATION AND A GENUINE EFFORT ON YOUR PART WILL HELP KEEP LOVE ALIVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE!

 

 

 

ROMANCE IN MARRIAGE

ROMANCE… IS IT MISSING IN YOUR MARRIAGE?

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          Romance in Marriage

The man you chose to spend your life with is everything you ever wanted in a mate, except for one thing…you wish he were more romantic!  You yearn for what you think is missing in your marriage, but is it really missing?

Loving ways speak for themselves!

The one you love might very well be romantic in his own way above and beyond the standard definition of romance.  You may not hear him say ‘I love you’ as often as you’d like, but you know that you mean the world to him because his loving ways speak for him.

Things he does to show his love for you!

He runs out to the store at half-time during championship playoffs to buy you those goodies you’ve been craving all day.

In summer, he washes and waxes your car then tops up your gas tank. In winter, he clears the ice and snow off your car, then warms up your engine in case you want to go shopping.

When he’s the first one up in the morning, he makes the coffee and keeps it warming on the burner until you get up.  He then pours you a cup, prepares it just the way you like it and brings it to you in whatever room you’re in.

He’s playful and flirtatious with you because he finds you beautiful, sexy and desirable.

He remembers to thank you for the tasty meals you prepare and set on the table for him to enjoy.

Loving ways are romantic!

Your sweetheart may not say ‘I love you’ with store-bought items, but he generously gives you his heart each and every day to make you feel happy, secure and content.  So, as you can see, romance is not missing in your marriage…it has simply been redefined by the one who loves you, who thinks the world of you and, in his own way, makes every day seem like Valentine’s Day!

LIFE LESSON:  FLOWERS AND CHOCOLATES ARE WONDERFUL EXPRESSIONS  OF LOVE, BUT FLOWERS EVENTUALLY WILT AND CHOCOLATES GET EATEN, BUT LOVING WAYS WILL NESTLE IN
YOUR HEART FOREVER!                                      
   

 

 

 

 

ENCOURAGING WORDS HAVE POWER

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Words can change a life

A FEW SIMPLE WORDS CAN SAVE A LIFE

The following true story will show how a few simple words and change someone’s life forever!

One New Year’s Eve while mingling with other guests at a party, I noticed a young girl huddled in an armchair at the far corner of the room with an unmistakable expression of sadness on her face.  “She could sure use some cheering up” I thought to myself and walked over to speak with her.  We chatted casually for a while before I felt comfortable enough to ask her why she was so unhappy.

“I’m pregnant,” she confided.  “My boyfriend left me, I don’t have a job or any money and I need to get an abortion so my parents won’t find out.  I’m really scared.”

While my mind raced for the right things to say, I found myself marveling aloud at the pure innocence of a baby, its trusting, toothless smile, delicate fingers and toes and an unconditional love for its mother.  I then reminded her that she has parents who love her and will be proud and thrilled to welcome their new grandchild once the initial shock wears off.

She listened intently to what I was saying then, smiling ever so brightly, she sprang to her feet to hug me.  “Thank you!” she said.  “What for?” I asked.  “For making me want my baby!” she replied while gently caressing her tiny baby bump.  “That’s wonderful!  Glad I could help!” I said then gave her one last hug and wished her well before resuming the party in progress.

Two years later, we happened to cross paths at the mall.  Over lunch, she brought me up to speed with news and wallet-sized photos of her pride and joy, a cute little fair-haired toddler!

On my drive home that day, I suddenly realized that  I had actually saved a life, not due to some heroic feat, but with mere words and good intentions.

Today, many lives are being saved every day by a prominent surgeon whose live I saved with simple, but powerful words.

LIFE LESSON:  WORDS HAVE ENORMOUS POWER
SO CHOOSE THEM WISELY BEFORE
YOU SPEAK.

 

THE POWER OF WORDS

IGNORE THOSE THOUGHTLESS COMMENTS

Sometimes, people make thoughtless comments without any intent to hurt you.  Instead of feeling hurt, you can choose to not allow the power of words make an impression on you.

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Sometimes people say thoughtless things

As a youngster, Jana (not her real name) was once told that she would be cute if only her teeth weren’t so crooked.  Jana is an adult now and to this day covers her mouth with her hand when she laughs or smiles because she is self-conscious about her teeth.

Yes, there are some folks who give themselves permission to make thoughtless comments to others without any regard as to the misery their words might cause someone.  Now that you are aware of this, are you ever again going to take someone’s negative comments to heart only to replay them in your head for years to come as Jana is doing?

The simple solution to this is to just IGNORE  upsetting comments as you hear them because thoughtless words can’t hurt you unless you let them!

This will be your test and your taste for personal power!

 

 

WHAT WILL PEOPLE THINK?

Do People’s Opinions About You Matter Too Much?

Are you worried about leaving a good impression? Do you often ask yourself, “What will people think? Why do you need to know that?    Who are those nameless, faceless people you’re wondering about? Will they pay your debts or replenish your food pantry?  How do you know they’ll even give you a fleeting thought?    When you dwell on what people think, you take away valuable time from yourself by not reflecting on what YOU think, what YOU want, or how YOU could be happier.

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What are people saying about you?

LIFE LESSON: NO MATTER WHAT PEOPLE THINK,  IT WON’T CHANGE A SINGLE HAIR ON YOUR HEAD, SO GO ABOUT LIVING YOUR LIFE WORRY-FREE!

WHEN FRIENDSHIPS FIZZLE

SOME FRIENDSHIPS JUST FIZZLE OUT

At different ages and stages of our lives,  we form friendships that we believe will last forever,  but that is not always the case because, sadly, some friendships do wane for a variety of reasons.

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Sometimes friendships just fizzle out

When it happened to Jana (not her real name), she was at a loss as to what went wrong to have caused her friendship of 17 years to suddenly ‘fizzle’.   The following are some of the reasons for a friendship ‘disconnect’:

  • Your priorities have shifted because your families and/or friends are taking up more of your time.
  • Your mates have little in common and do not encourage the friendship.
  • Nothing new is being brought to the friendship table so you slowly drift apart.
  • Perhaps one of you inadvertently offended the other with a flippant remark in jest, thus permanently severing the friendship.

We may never really know why a friendship ‘fizzles’.  What we do know is how much it meant to us while it lasted.  We also know that sooner or later, everyone moves on to newer faces and fresh experiences to see us through our next stage in life because that’s how life challenges us.

Please don’t fret if your friendship has dwindled down to the occasional greeting card. That lets you know that you’re still connected…and that’s the good news!

LIFE LESSON:    FRIENDSHIPS GIFT US WITH VALUABLE LESSONS AND MOMENTOUS MEMORIES TO ENHANCE OUR LIVES, SO EMBRACE THEM FOR THEIR DURATION, THEN MOVE ON WITH THE NEW!

FAILURE CAN DRIVE YOU TO SUCCEED!

Let’s turn “failure” into a positive force. Here’s how you can make it work for you and still succeed:

  1. Backview of man every accomplishment starts with the decision to try
    Just keep on trying – you’ll get there!

    Let it serve as a reminder as to how courageous you were to have tried something new in the first place.

  2. Consider it as a “motivator” to encourage you to try harder, until you achieve what you set out to do.
  3. Use it as a “deterrent” – a reason to question your choices, so you don’t repeat mistakes you’ve made!

LIFE LESSON:  WHEN YOU’RE FEELING LIKE A FAILURE,  REMEMBER THAT INVENTORS, PAINTERS,  EXPLORERS, ETC., ALL BEGAN THEIR  JOURNEY TOWARDS SUCCESS WITH A FIRST STEP INTO THE UNKNOWN.  JUST KEEP ON TRYING AND YOU’LL EVENTUALLY  SUCCEED.

WHAT WE SAY CAN COME BACK TO ‘BITE’ US!

Watch what you say because,

in conversing with others, we sometimes unwittingly divulge too much personal information about ourselves that can be viewed by others in ways we never intended.

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People thinking about what                  you’ve said
       WHAT YOU MIGHT SAY…         MIGHT BE VIEWED AS…
“My husband spends too much time at work…he’s hardly ever home.” HE’S HAVING AN AFFAIR!
“I love my gin and tonic and can’t wait to make myself a good stiff drink  when I get home!”   YOU’RE PROBABLY A DRINKER.
“When I was young, I was with friends and we stole some gum from the corner store!”   YOU HAVE IT IN YOU TO TAKE WHAT DOESN’T BELONG TO YOU.
“Sometimes I re-gift the presents given to me because I can’t really use them!”    THE PERSON WHO HEARD YOU SAY THAT WILL ALWAYS  WONDER IF YOUR GIFT TO HIM/HER IS A RE-GIFT FROM YOU!
“What you might say: Summer is so short…thank goodness I have a camper to go to on weekends!”   EVEN IF YOU LEGITIMATELY CALL IN SICK TO WORK ON  A FRIDAY MORNING, YOUR CO-WORKERS WILL  WONDER  IF YOU’RE SIMPLY TREATING YOURSELF TO A  NICE, LONG WEEKEND!

LIFE LESSON:  REFRAIN FROM TALKING ABOUT YOURSELF SO MUCH.  ASK QUESTIONS INSTEAD, OTHERWISE PEOPLE WILL GO HOME ENLIGHTENED WITH INFORMATION ABOUT YOU AND YOU WILL GO HOME ‘IN THE DARK’ ABOUT THEM!